• Riya Jadhav

Self-love: An unconditional attachment with no compromises

Updated: Oct 14, 2020

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Self love is crucial

Self-love is a very mistaken idea.

Many of us believe that self-love is going out and treating yourself with your favourite candy or hitting the gym once in a month, spending all your time in bed and binging Netflix, right?

because that's what makes you happy!

It's not your fault the blame is on the heap of useless information that you encounter every day on your social media or web as a whole.

so, what exactly is self-love if it's not about chuckling?

According to my point of view, self-love is caring about yourself, engaging yourself in habits that are arbitrarily impactful in the long run, it's about hugging your true self and above all acceptance of the true YOU and loving it the way it is. Its prime time we realize that not all things-"good things" are meant to fulfil our satisfaction, some things you have to do, by hooks or crooks. Going out of normal for the betterment of YOU is what self-care actually is.

You can’t bloom with colours if you stay inside your comfort shell. To understand this more precisely, do read the book The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself written by the very famous author Shannon Kaiser. This directs on how to be your own best friend and how not to self-sabotage your goals. It also provides insights on how to cultivate self-love and how to subdue your demons.

moving on,

self-confidence, self-esteem, self-care, etc. all revolve around one base thing, and that's self-love, so until you understand the true essence of self-love: self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-care won't emerge out in its true potential form.

Here are my few tips to boost your self-confidence by practising self-love, which is much needed.

Stop running behind perfection

I'm that kind of person who feels super jittery and disturbing when certain things go off-track. No matter how much I invest in something or how my mental state hit the skids in the process. All my life I've been craving like wild for perfection. So, trust me when I say- thirst for fractions of perfection is good and healthy practice, but obsessing over perfection affects negatively on your mental well-being.

Self-care is not only about satisfying and fulfilling your physical or material needs, it's more about maintaining emotional peace and soulful tranquillity of the inner YOU. It takes time to realize that - in the end, your mental harmony and mind decorum is what matters and will alone decide how far you'll go.

Embrace your uniqueness

Every soul on this planet differs from others.

We all have been in situations where subtly or crudely we are very conveniently compared to others based on various factors like our looks, IQ, skills, talents, etc. with time we all are so attuned to this toxic behaviour that our psyche is clouded and we involuntarily tend to compare our work with others. So, embracing uniqueness should be practised and made a habit to boost self-esteem and self-confidence.

Surround yourself with the best

Surrounding yourself with people who empower you and bring the best in you is very essential. Most of our personality is developed and synced with people with whom we spend most of our time. So, make sure to be good friends with people who always push you to explore new things that add up to your knowledge and experience. Stay away from those who mentally corrupt you- because it can significantly bring down your self-esteem.

Be a badass, not sadass!

Negativity and debasing aura are the new blacks- in today's generation, you'll notice how easily negativity spreads. Working on changing perspectives about things and learning to take a positive approach to every obstacle will be very beneficial in long run. Being optimistic is not a piece of cake- a powerful urge and intellectual mindset is what's required and will surely come with practice. So make sure - no matter how big or small your problem is always to adopt an optimistic approach to solve them.


There are a few things that you hate about yourself.

Working on accepting your flaws is the first step to practice self-love. Don't call yourself with discrediting words or phrases that can lower your self-confidence-you are important and you're worthy (never forget that)-so never toll yourself less than anyone-competing in chunks is healthy, but comparing is not. It's not a big deal we all have a few sets of flaws and strengths.

so, learn to accept YOURSELF first

Here are my top most effective and core affecting ways to love yourself more. Life is sketchy and monotonous with no downs- success can transform into the downfall, love life can turn into coldness, best friends can turn to strangers, once a billionaire can lose everything in a flash and flat earthers will stay the same (sarcastic). But no matter what, life goes on. So, make most of it, experience every hill and valley with a mind full of positive thoughts, and see how you come out with flying colours.

Self-care and self-love are necessary. Have the courage to start over and realize by changing your perspective you are slowly changing the perspective of people around you. Be the motivation for yourself and others will cling onto you for inspiration.

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