MAYBE YOU DONT NEED ANYONE, JUST GOOD RELATIONS WITH YOURSELF
“A relationship should add to your life, a relationship shouldn’t be your life. Don’t rush into anything, for the sake of having something.
You can be everything you need if you put in your time, build yourself, create securities, your emotions and heal from your history.” — Steven
To have a great relationship with someone else, sometimes you have to work on the relationship you have with yourself first. If you’re emotionally insecure, dependent, unfulfilled and unhappy besides, financially unstable and dependent, then thinking that the other person can and ought to fulfil all of your needs, is not only dangerous but also a tragically short-term way to think. The pressure that level of dependency will put on that relationship is both unfair and unsustainable.
You will do nothing but suffocate your partner's independence. It's important to remember that needing a person too much comes from fear and insecurity, not from love because no matter how hard you search or how much you swipe, there is no type of love that can permanently fill the void in a person who doesn't love themselves, already. There is no freedom in dependency and there is no security in attaching yourself to a secure person.
If you’re unhealthily dependent on someone, you risk completely sacrificing your own sense of identity, and your self-worth will quickly become reliant on that relationship.
Studies show that relationships where one partner is dependent on the other -result in higher risks of depression, anxiety, emotional stress and self-conflict. Studies show that a dependent partner is more likely to tolerate an abusive relationship, and some other studies also show that when that relationship ends, the feeling of grief that the dependent person experiences, can be so overwhelming that they have a greater risk of falling into chronic depression, feeling unworthy of any kind of relationship.
Ultimately, we’re all jigsaw puzzles with missing parts. And you can find few of your missing pieces in close friends, family, your passions and in yourself, but It will never be another person’s responsibility to complete you.
MAYBE YOU DON’T NEED ANYONE,
MAYBE YOU JUST NEED A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH ‘YOU’.