6 things you must do if someone tells negative things about you
'You are the dead bulb
on my string of lights
the disease I must rip out
in order to repair my shine"
Toxic people are present on every crossing of this globe.
Sometimes it feels like they are living in a completely different gravitational field where anything that extends out from them is negative vibes. They might even don't realize how their presence and existence can ruin and devastate the people around them in the ways they can't even imagine.
They are topmost manipulators, exceptional actors, super defensive, and they are filled with jealously and anger.
If I had to describe what really is an 'intoxicated being'
'The person who makes you feel down and less valuable in such a skilful way that you start believing them blindly and everything that's good in you starts rippling down.'
Best way to recognize such vipers is:
(if you are unfortunately associated with such)
Every time you hang out with them if you feel emotionally drained, depressed, full of anxiety and self-doubt.
then yes, they are toxic for you!
Once you've recognized all of them the next question is how to deal with their negative aura
so, let's explore or rather get to know more about how to deal with such people and be a pro snake charmer (precisely toxic being charmer:/)
6. STOP PLEASING
These kinds of people have absolutely no reason for the change of attitude, one day they'll be like your soulmate, and other days
woshhh- nothing they'll not even recognize you.
These people behave so cold that they will target your good side and will charm you to satisfy their needs.
like seriously they'll be like so cranky, sad, and super mysterious and when you ask them for the reason, they will utter jut a word that is 'nothing'
and that's very annoying.
If you don't want to tell the reason then don't express! Simple
once or twice it's acceptable but if this is their everyday routine then they are really psychologically unwell or they are just as toxic as you predicted.
stay away! don't give it all just to please them
they are humans, not dogs (please more dogs)
and even if because of your golden heart and a caring attitude- you do try to please them then okay go ahead, but stay in the limit, realize it beforehand that your self-esteem is the big price you are paying.
think- is it worth it?
if no then
you are not at all responsible for anyone's feelings
if they approach you and confess that they are cranky because of you then feel free to clear it out and apologize but if they are not mentioning it then just let them go, such people are not worthy of you precious time.
5. KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES
These beings are very good at convincing you by taking the emotional route.
so, if you know someone who very often makes you choose between them and something else.
just distance yourself. Do what you want to do without your opinions and choices influenced.
"if you care about me or if you really love me, you'll not do this/that"
"if you don't want me to be upset then please eat this, you can continue your diet from tomorrow" etc.
Stay away from this dramatic stuff for god's sake! Do what's good for you. And learn to say NO.
4. BE LAZER SMART
Some are super manipulative-character-wise.
If they want something out of you, they will manipulate you in ways where you are vulnerable.
They will pretend like they are doing everything just for you but in reality, they are just getting their work done.
These people often ignore and don't value any of your inputs and all they do is play the blame game.
get this straight
If you are willing to help out or do a favor then go for it, but if it doesn't feel like a favor and more of a burden on your shoulders- then just be bold enough to speak out.
3. ONE TOXIC CONVERSATION AND THAT'S THE END
Some beings while conveying their point might say less but their tone and usage of words will imply a lot more about what they actually wanted to say.
if anytime you experience someone letting you down or making you feel like you are not enough or your decisions are not to the point and its mentally harming you then please choose to walk away.
e.g. "you studied anyways we decided not to"
" I fell down, and my knee is scratched and as usual, you are busy in your own world"
such statements are very heart squishing they don't even know how hurtful it can be to others.
so, the best way is to stay by yourself and don't be super indulged with anyone who keeps such astrological and magical expectations from you.
2. DONT ARGUE WITH THEM
Exaggerating stuff is their main game.
They use words like "always", "never", "only me" etc. which is not correct. No relationship or connection never lives if it's one-sided so if the other person is not acknowledging your efforts it not worth trying more.
So, don't argue about anything with them, you will lose, and it's not at all necessary to win such meaningless fights.
1.NO ONE IS PERFECT
Toxic people have this very bad habit of being nosy and judgmental they will make sure that you regret and cry for your mistakes which will wipe out all your confidence and will leave you in agony and regret. Their words and judgments passed to you are like mere criticism just take it and throw it far away.
One last piece of advice,
You as an individual can be toxic for some and healers for others, some will take your positive vibes and expand it further till the seventh sky but some might feed in your darkness and will pull you down to the hell.
So just know it, that It's YOU who defines what you really are.
know where you are going wrong and try to rectify it to become a better version of yourself.
Try to embrace the good in you and spread positivity around.