5 interesting ways to deal with rude people
The average human life is about 80 years, 79 to be precise.
In these 80 years, you will come across zillions of people playing different roles in your life play.
Now let's classify them into 3 types:
The first kind are those who think well of you and behave nicely (these are your family, close friends, partner 'probably' etc.)
next comes those who think bad about you but pretend to be nice (be aware these are the most terrible beings on this planet) and the last category is a set of people who despise you on the inside and talk bad about you in front without stuttering (enemies, once upon a time best friend, etc.).
Here we are going to focus on these 3rd category Homosapiens who are always stormy, glib, and arrogant to us no matter how good or bad you behave.
So, should someone's behavior lower our esteem?
and how to not get hurt because of them and how to handle such people?
Let's dive right into the top 5 interesting ways to handle rude people.
RUDE CHARACTERS ARE NECESSITY
Now you must be thinking,
"WHAT? Are you serious"
Yes, I am
A sugar-coated life in the long term will bring lifeless monotonicity to your life and will eventually make you sick! Keep in mind the person rude to you might be both correct or wrong. Be the filter you need. Psych yourself to positively take feedbacks but make sure you filter out the energy that comes with it.
Not everyone will give you sugar-coated feedback, some people convey it to you via criticism, judgment, envy, etc. It depends on that person. What you have to do is accept only the feedback part that makes sense to you and shamelessly ignore the criticism part.
Understand that a person who is rude to you is behaving that way because probably he/she is having a mental breakdown. Be mature enough to understand their situation and radiate positive energy around. If you keep accepting the criticism you're going to end up in an endless circuit of sadness where you can’t focalize on the feedback part anymore and you feed yourself with feelings of getting disrespected, insulted, and soon or later get hurt.
so, it's very important to TAKE IN THE FEEDBACKS AND FILTER OUT THE UNNECESSARY GLUM ENERGY.
FIND OUT THE REAL PROBLEM
When you know that there are a bunch of hungry dogs in the next street waiting to bite someone’s flesh off, why would you go there, you know you’re going to get bitten. yeah?
How about taking some other path, where there are no ravenous wild dogs.
You get it, if you know someone or something is going to hurt you and disrupt your mental peace, why to go there in the first place?
keep required distance, try to be nice and understanding but the point where circumstances go out of hands and it's uncontrollable and you notice that you are degrading mentally.
Back off- simple.
find some other way that is safer and less mentally degrading.
YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR SUFFERINGS AND HAPPINESS
Sit and think, introspect yourself, answer these
-Does your happiness comes from outside or inside?
-Are your sufferings your own or are unnecessary gifts from others?
-Do you smile only when someone makes you smile?
-Do you cry only when someone hurts you?
If the answers to this are "yes" then you should consider giving more attention to yourself. The remote to your happiness and sorrow both should be in your control, not in others.
Always remember one thing- every person, every soul in this universe (not sure about aliens) is filled with love, kindness, and compassion. The way someone reacts shows his/her condition and mental stability. When someone has a broken bone or is having some physical complication, what do we generally say??
"Oh no, I understand you are not well. Get well soon and take care- don't worry about anything "
Then why are these phrases not in the picture when someone is mentally sick!!
Think about it!
PSYCHOLOGY TRICK 101
This world contains many crybabies already, it doesn't require more. Did you ever experience people asking you questions like?
"Hey you always look so happy"
"Dude you have a perfect life -zero sorrows-zero stress"
"You know what you should start taking things seriously"
There are people around you who radiate negative aura around and its natural human tendency they feel uncomfortable when they encounter someone happier.
A life with zero problems is an ideal life it’s not real. Everyone has their own set of problems. Crying over them is not going to give solutions-but facing them with a smile can.
Take Selena Gomez's advice and "kill em with kindness"
So, smile more, don't let external energy dissipate your happiness and well-being.
Slowly and gradually you will notice that people will absorb your positivity and will get motivated by you.
Make your positive aura and spread positivity around as much as you can.
Supporting someone and understanding their circumstances is humanity, but you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. Another person is not your responsibility.
If things are taking nasty turns, where the blame game is on fire just make sure you take the initiative to give it a full stop. In rage and hatred, brain functions are diminished. If you still want to continue conflict- fine, continue it after a sufficient time, till everything inside calms down. Talking continuously in an angry and frustrated tone progresses the conflict behavior and can go to a point where everything can get snapped and there is a possibility the people involved in the conflict can end up in hatred, hurt, and enter the loop of gloominess in no time.
This all is not needed-know your limits and learn to pull off a full stop immediately when things take a bad turn.
UNDERSTAND RUDENESS CAN BE A HABIT FOR SOMEONE
It's possible that a person is raised that way, rudeness comes with him/her just like you get a free conditioner on your shampoo. And getting rid of this habit can be quite challenging.
Accept the person the way they are, never take their words personally. And remember, you can't make someone behave the way you want. So never try to force a change. Because if you do try to change them, the way you think is correct can make things worse than they already are.
Take a smart calculated decision whether to accept that person the way he/she is or just let go let them tackle their problems on their own.
Here you go with my top 5 ways to not get rid of people literally, but more about accepting people the way they are.
HAVE A NICE DAY!